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How to Impress A Woman

Wine her.
Dine her.
Call her.
Hold her.
Surprise her.
Compliment her,
Smile at her.
Listen to her.
Laugh with her.
Cry with her.
Romance her.
Encourage her.
Believe in her.
Pray with her.
Pray for her.
Respect her.
Honour her.
Cuddle her.
Shop with her.
Give her jewellery.
Give her flowers.
Kiss her.
Caress her.
Love her.
Stroke her.
Tease her.
Comfort her.
Protect her.
Hug her.
Spend money on her.
Buy things for her.
Care for her.
Stand by her.
Support her.
Hold her hand.
Write love letters to her.
Go to the ends of the Earth and back again for her.

How To Impress A Man

Do marriage vows seem to mean as much today as they used to? If you’ve heard anything about the increase in divorce rates, you may wonder.

Bill and Glad Forward a couple who live on the Sunshine Coast of Australia, are definitely ignoring the trends. More than ever the vows they made 50 years ago are being tested. In sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, the promise they are keeping is a true example of what love is. They have spent much of their lives working to help lepers and orphans in India and Romania.

This short 3 minutes plus video, produced by CVCNOW, documented the love of Bill and Glad. Simply titled “What Is Love?” the video tells the story of how they met more than 50 years ago and the daily battle with Glad’s advance stages of Alzheimer’s.

In the video, Bill tells of how he has to do everything for his wife, from the time she gets up until when they go to bed – from brushing her teeth to dressing and feeding her.

According to Sunshine Coast Daily, Bill said, “I don’t count it a burden whatsoever, I count it a great privilege to care for this one I have loved all these years.”

He first knew her when she was about eight through Glad’s brother, who was friends with Bill.

They will celebrate 50 years together this year.

The film stemmed from director Fiona Cameron’s desire to tell the story of a couple she has known for 15 years.

“It has been breaking my heart to watch Glad wither away over the last few years but it has also astounded me how Bill has gently cared for her,” she told ninemsn.

“It wouldn’t cross his mind to do anything but cherish, protect and care for her.”

This is especially true when we are caught in an argument with another, when ‘winning’ temporary seems more important than the relationship with the person. At that point of time, our blood is boiling and we just want to say the nastiest things to hurt the person. However, trust me, almost 100% of the time we are only hurting ourselves as we’ll live to regret what we say; I couldn’t remember a time when I said somethings in the heat of the moments and I didn’t regret after that. Our attitude in how we handle an argument really plays an important part.

What we should have done, as far as possible at that moment, is to walk away to allow both parties the much needed time to cool down. Make it clear to the other person that we are not avoiding but it is not going to be constructive to talk at a time like this.

However, it is not gonna be easy to walk away especially when we are emotionally stirred up and yet that is what we must do. Whenever I was on the verge of blurting out something hurtful, I would always consciously remind myself of the consequence. I might not be always successful but like flexing of our muscles, the more we flex our muscles the stronger they get; the more we put it into practice, the better we get also.

Attitude, surely is an important factor that can make a difference to relationship and we must focus more on relationship building and less on being right and winning. I would also like to share a passage by Joel Osteen, which I read yesterday on the power of words in communication between spouses. I do believe that our attitude towards the relationship ultimately determines the words we speak and that indirectly either damage or deepen the relationship. Although the below passage by Joel Osteen focuses on communication between spouses, I do believe that it applies to all type of relationships and it is very much worth a read.

It is important for a husband to understand that his words have tremendous power in his wife’s life. He needs to bless her with words. She’s given her life to love and care for him, to partner with him, to create a family together, to nurture his children. If he is always finding fault in something she’s doing, always putting her down, he will reap horrendous problems in his marriage and in his life.

Moreover, many women today are depressed and feel emotionally abused because their husbands do not bless them with their words. One of the leading causes of emotional breakdowns among married women is the fact that women do not feel valued. One of the main reasons for that deficiency is because husbands are willfully or unwittingly withholding the words of approval women so desperately desire.

If you want to see God do wonders in your marriage, start praising your spouse. Start appreciating and encouraging her. Every single day, a husband should tell his wife, “I love you. I appreciate you. You’re the best thing that ever happened to me.”

A wife should do the same for her husband. Your relationship would improve immensely if you’d simply start speaking kind, positive words, blessing your spouse instead of cursing him or her.

The New Year’s Eve was also subtly reflective as I observed the people around me and spending time with three little angels. 2012 has indeed been a year of excitements, love, broken hearts, and challenges! However, I believe that everything happened for a reason.

When I was penning a New Year greetings to send to my friends and associates in my Whatsapp’s contact list, a perfect message appeared in my mind – a speech by Claire Morgan, a character played by Hilary Swank in the movie New Year’s Eve, came to my mind; she has so perfectly and eloquently spoken my thoughts.

I wouldn’t start the new year without sharing this inspirational speech of Claire Morgan with you:

” … and as you all can see, the ball has stopped half way to its perch. it’s suspended there to remind us before we pop the champagne and celebrate the new year, to stop, and reflect on the year that has gone by, to remember both our triumphs and our missteps, our promises made and broken, the times we opened ourselves up to great adventures … or closed ourselves down for fear of getting hurt, because that’s what new year’s all about, getting another chance, a chance to forgive. to do better, to do more, to give more, to love more, and to stop worrying about what if… and start embracing what will be. so when that ball drops at midnight, and it will drop, let’s remember to be nice to each other, kind to each other, and not just tonight but all year long.“

Indeed, new year is a great time to reflect on the year that has gone by! Yet is it also a long wait to reflect on the year. In fact, we should break down the yearly reflection to monthly, or even weekly, or even (ideally) daily reflection; just as it was mentioned that we be nice to each other, kind to each other not just for new year day but all year long. In 2013, I want to go back to the basic of giving more, loving more, dreaming more, starting to embrace what I am, and counting my daily blessings. Most importantly – to live a Happy Life!

We were all born to live a life of greatness and there shouldn’t be any other way to live our lives except to unleash our full potential to become what we were created for. And a remind that time is all we have. As what Randy Pausch said, “Time is all you have and you may find one day that you have less than you think.” This is so very true isn’t it?