What would you have done if your house is on fire and you are trapped on the second storey? Probably you would have done exactly what 81 years old Jim Hodkins did, he broke out of his second storey window and jumped out. Fire crews at the scene said that Jim broke his leg in the jump and yet he crawled back into the house to save his wife.
According to the Examiner, they are both expected to be okay. I am just glad that both of them are alright. That was truly a remarkable act of love by Jim and I hope that couples would be inspired by such timeless love.
A friend of mine would say that this is only a rare cases as he recently went through a divorce. I told him that there are many such cases around me as well as from the many comments left previously on this blog and on Symphony of Love’s page in Facebook of happy marriages. He simply brushed off what I said and said that a lot of people are hypocrite – they only act loving in front of others.
There are always two sides to a coin and yet when one’s foot is firmly on one of the sides, one would only see his/her side of the coin.
Do you still remember a story of The blind men and the elephant?
A Jain version of the story says that six blind men were asked to determine what an elephant looked like by feeling different parts of the elephant’s body. The blind man who feels a leg says the elephant is like a pillar; the one who feels the tail says the elephant is like a rope; the one who feels the trunk says the elephant is like a tree branch; the one who feels the ear says the elephant is like a hand fan; the one who feels the belly says the elephant is like a wall; and the one who feels the tusk says the elephant is like a solid pipe.
A king explains to them:
All of you are right. The reason every one of you is telling it differently is because each one of you touched the different part of the elephant. So, actually the elephant has all the features you mentioned
Don’t you agree with the king that they were all right in each of their descriptions. How you are looking at marriage now would depend on which sides of the elephant you are touching. Whatever your current view of marriage, you are right. And you will attract all the stories and examples around you to support your viewpoint of marriage.
What I sincerely hope is for you to have an open mind and perhaps view the elephant from the other perspectives.
Love doesn’t sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new. – Ursula K. Le Guin, The Lathe Of Heaven
This is the same for marriage. Marriage can be boring to some? Imagine living with the same person every day for the rest of your life? Many found that marriage wasn’t as sweet as they have thought it was. Marriage never mentioned sweetness for the rest of our lives. Remember the vow … in good times and bad times?
Yes, there will be ups and downs in marriage and we have to constantly re-make love to create new sparks to rekindle the connection with our spouses. It is supposed to be hard yet enjoyable work. If you are not ready for this part of the package, don’t get marry. And if you are, start re-making love in marriage! It is the start of an exciting journey together, and we are not even talking about children yet! Buckled up!
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