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Posted on Mar 06, 2014 under Attitude, Challenges in Life, Choices in Life, Dealing with Adversity, Don't give up, Inspiration, Inspiring, Lesson in Life, Never give up, Positive thoughts, Reflection, The farmer's donkey |
Take the stones people throw at you and use them to build a monument.
- Robin Sharma -
Great advise from Robin Sharma; the stones that others hurl you can be used to hurt you and can bury you alive if you allow them to. However, we have a choice to take the stones which are thrown at us to build a monument. We cannot stop others from throwing stones at us but we sure can choose what to do with the stones. This reminds me of a story which I received many years ago about the farmer’s donkey.
The story goes … a farmer’s donkey fell into an abandoned well one day. Terrified, the animal cried for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old and impossible to retrieve. He realized the well needed to be filled to prevent future losses. So he invited all his neighbors to help him.
They all grabbed shovels and began to throw dirt into the well. At first, when the donkey realized he was being buried alive, he cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s shock, the donkey quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer looked down the well and was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit the donkey’s back, the donkey would shake it off and take a step up.
As the farmer and his neighbors continued to throw dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take another step up. Soon everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!
Life is going to throw dirt your way and attempt to bury you. However, no one ever gets out of life’s well by giving up! Shake the dirt off and take a step up!
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Posted on Mar 01, 2014 under Attitude, Challenges in Life, Dealing with Adversity, Determination, Don't give up, Don't lose hope, Inspirational, Lesson in Life, Napoleon Hill, Perseverance, Persistence, Reflection, Self-confidence, Think and Grow Rich, Three feet from gold |
“When you most feel like giving up is when you most need to be keeping on.”
- Robin Sharma -
That was great advise from Robin Sharma! I was replying to an email from a friend this morning about the times when I just felt like giving up but something good always happened that make me persevered. Perhaps he said it best that the moment when we most feel like giving up is when we most need to be keeping on.
I was listening to a TEDx talk by Dr. Ivan Joseph the other day on ‘The Skill of Self Confidence’ and in the talk he mentioned that the easiest way of building self confidence is ‘Repetition, repetition, repetition.’ ‘Repetition’ is indeed a great way to build self confidence; when we become so good in doing something and it becomes so natural that we become confident. He observed that the problem with repetition is people bailed after the first bit of failure or adversity. He went on to say, “Maybe it shouldn’t be repetition … maybe the answer should be persistence.”
I believe ‘Persistence‘ to be the key in repetition; to persist even when we hit roadblock after roadblock. This reminds me of a story I read many years ago in the book ‘Think and Grow Rich,’ by Napoleon Hill, about an uncle of R. U. Darby who joined the “gold fever” bandwagon during the gold-rush days and went west to dig and grow rich.
After weeks of labor, he was rewarded by the discovery of the shining ore. He needed machinery to bring the ore to the surface. Quietly, he covered up the mine and went back home to raise money for the needed machinery. The uncle and Darby went back to work the mine. Initially, they seemed to have one of the richest mines in Colorado and they seems to be in for the big killing in profits.
But then it stopped. The vein of gold ore disappeared! They drilled on desperately in vain to try to pick up the vein again. Finally, they decided to give up and sell the machinery to a junk man for a few hundred dollars.
The junk man recruited the expertise of a mining engineer whom upon looking at the mine, calculated that the vein would be found just three feet from where the Darbys had stopped drilling! And three feet is exactly where it was found!
The junk man went on to make millions of dollars from the mine. Quoting Napoleon Hill from the book, “One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat.”
This is a great lesson in ‘Persistence,’ which we can learn from the story. Are we not guilty of this mistake at one time or another? The next time when we feel like giving up, remember that we may be just three feet from gold!
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Posted on Feb 22, 2014 under Adaptability, Attitude, Awareness, Challenges in Life, Dealing with Adversity, Determination, Don't give up, Flexibility, Humbleness, Humility, Inspirational, Inspiring, Lesson in Life, Perseverance, Reflection, Resilience, TEDxTokyo, Youtube's Video |
to become greater, become humbler.
- Robin Sharma -
One lesson which I had learnt many years ago from a business leader, was to be humble like the bamboo; the higher it goes, the lower it ‘bows.’ Bamboo, which is commonly known in the Chinese culture as one of the four gentlemen, namely the orchid, the bamboo, the chrysanthemum and the plum blossom, and also as three friends of winter, namely the pine, the bamboo and the plum. According to China Daily, “… bamboo is a symbol of virtue. It reflects people’s souls and emotions.”
The following are four lessons, which we can learn from Bamboo:
1. Be strong likes the bamboo. Quoting Garr Reynolds from his talk, “Remember what looks weak is actually strong: Bamboo is incredibly strong.” In fact, according to an article, ‘The Bamboo Solution’ in Discover, bamboo is deemed ‘Tough as steel, sturdier than concrete …‘ In the same article, “Ounce for ounce, bamboo is stronger than wood, brick, and concrete. Consider the aforementioned compression test. What that figure means is that, compared with, say, concrete, bamboo can withstand twice as much force bearing down on it.”
2. Flexibility and adaptability. Bamboo bends with the wind but do not break. Metaphorically, when we are coping with adversity in life, we must be able to go with the natural flow, be flexible, adapt to the surroundings and yet to be firmly rooted.
3. Humility. The Bamboo hollowness reminds us to empty our minds, to learn, to unlearn and to relearn. When we are able to empty ourselves with the preconceived perceptions in life and be open, we can fill ourselves with new possibilities and new wisdom.
4. Resilience. Bamboo has incredible ability to spring and bounce back. As the Japanese proverb aptly puts it, “Fall seven times and stand up eight. No matter how many times we get knocked down, we get up again; we just keep getting up and trying again and never never give up.
The next time when you see bamboo, hopefully you will remember these four lessons which bamboo has taught me and you may not look at it the same way again … I know I would not. Last but not least, quoting Garr Reynolds from his talk again, “Be like the bamboo my friend.” Here is the talk by Garr Reynolds.
Posted on Feb 20, 2014 under Children, Family, Gift, Kids, Lesson in Life, Parenting, poem, Reflection, Relationship, Relationship Tips, Roots and Wings, Teaching, Unconditional Love, Upbringing children |
There are two things we should give our children: one is roots and the other is wings.
- Author Unknown
My understanding of the quote: Roots, which would allow our children to stand firmly and to steadfastly hold their grounds in a world which is constantly trying to change them into something else. And Wings, which allow them to soar to great height, freely, unbounded and far away.
Not forgetting to couple these two gifts with an unlimited amount of unconditional love. However, in all being said, parenting is always a challenge; there will be times when your kids will put your love for them to the test. In times like these, you will also need a great deal of patience and have faith that love will prevail all challenges. In all being said, know that there is no one straight forward way that will work for every situation. Keep in mind that one will always make mistakes along the way so don’t be too hard on yourself.
While Googling for the author of the above quote, I came across the below poem, ‘Roots & Wings’, which brilliantly brings out the essence of the quote.
Roots & Wings
If I could give you many things,
I’d give you gold and silver rings
Of knowledge that I’ve gained with years
The gift of smiling through the tears
Confidence, courage, determination,
Laughter and spirit and love of creation,
Wrapped up in a box with a bow, I’d give
To you these gifts to keep for as long as you live.
“If I could give you just two things,
One would be Roots, the other, Wings.”
Roots, not to tie you to the ground,
But to guide you to where your fulfillment is found
The nourishing start, the firm foundation,
The source of your inner determination.
Wings to soar over obstacles, wings to fly free,
Wings to glide to the heights of the best you can be.
And when obstacles loom, from your Roots grows a hand
Providing a strong, sturdy, safe place to land.
I’d choose these two things for the gifts that are best,
For with Roots and with Wings, you’ll find all the rest!
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