“You dun always have next time, sometimes it’s now, or never.” That was the last sentence typed by a dear friend before she signed off and went to bed.
“Today bought something very interesting.” That was the start of my little discussion with my friend last night; she bought two necklaces yesterday and she was showing me the picture of them and telling me excitedly that the gold inside the glass necklace moves or rather floats. Her excitement got me interested and I was asking how much she paid for it as I was thinking of getting one for myself as a gift for someone.
The discussion continued with the design of the necklace and then it led to gift giving.
Being a guy, I asked her for her opinion, “Would girl like this? From your experience.”
I agree that that was a dumb question. She laughingly wrote, “How would I know? Everyone is different.” I had to agree she was right. Giving gift is an art. There are a few considerations about the person whom we are giving the gift; the likes and dislikes of the person and how close we feel about the person. I said ‘how close we feel’ instead of ‘how close we are’ because sometimes to the person, the feeling may not be mutual.
We came to the conclusion that it really depends on individual.
Then she said. “Well, I wouldn’t suggest giving necklace or any jewelry unless you know her very well or already dating.” “Earrings maybe, if you roughly know what she likes; studs or chandelier, pearls or crystals etc.” “Because I won’t wear it if I don’t like it. So I said, unless you know what she likes.”
Yes, I must say that that was my main, or rather the only concern whenever I gave necklace or jewelry to girls and so I totally agree with what she just said. And yet when it comes to gift giving, sometimes I can be very irrational and follow my intuition; if I like it, I will buy it.
I confessed to her that during my university days, I spent about $500 from my saving to get a diamond necklace for a girl I like and in fact I told her I love giving necklace as a gift to someone special. My rationale has always been simple, “If I don’t give now, I may never have another chance again.” Didn’t Robin Williams said, “Seize the day,” in the character he played in the movie ‘Dead Poet’s Society?’
Sometimes we analyse so much and so deeply that we fail to take action. We have to learn to take risks and chances. I have come to realise that as we grow older, we are plagued more by the things we didn’t do than by the things we did. I would rather talk about the things I did then to look back in regrets to all the ‘Should haves,’ ‘Might haves,’ ‘Could haves,’ etc. I told my friend, “It can be very painful living in the should have been.” Life is not in the past or in the future … life is here and now.
And that was when she replied, “Yup. You dun always have next time, sometimes it’s now, or never!”
Today will never come again. Be a blessing. Be a friend. Encourage someone. Take time to care. Let your words heal and not wound. Take risks and chances. Let make it a good one! Let us live life to the fullest and leave as little as possible to regrets!
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