– Brad Paisley
How was your last day of 2013? Did it end with spectacular fireworks display? For some, you are probably still waiting to usher in 2014. I hope you have had or are having a wonderful time with your loved ones on the last day of 2013.
For me, as I am writing this, it is already 11 in the morning of 2014. As usual, a lot have happened in the year 2013; a lot of challenges, happy and sad moments, moments of hope and moments of despair! Each brought forth lesson which I have to learn. Yet as the saying goes, “All these shall pass!” Indeed, they passed. Things and people which might seem impossible to let go at one time, had been let go or rather coped with. If there are anything which life has taught in 2013, it would have been inner peace, to love people and not judging them and letting go.
Inner peace: not letting things, situations and people destroy my inner peace no matter what. Just as Dalai Lama said, “Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” If we are able to remain calm within, we can look at things, situations and people in a much clearer perspective. And that leads to loving and not judging people. When we are at peace with ourselves, we are at peace with all.
To be honest, sometimes I jumped to conclusion about people only to realise later that things weren’t the way they seemed to be in the first place. Haven’t that happened to all of us? If only love comes first before judging? Quoting Mother Teresa, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Hope the realisation hasn’t come too late. But I am glad I have the rest of my life, if the Universe permits, to make things right – starting this 1st of January 2014.
And the last lesson life taught me in 2013 is that time heals everything. That is a myth; I remember reading somewhere that time does not heal, we just learn to cope. Isn’t that so true? Time does not directly heal our wounds; we just learn to deal with the wound. In the passing of someone we loved deeply, we learn to cope with doing things alone and stop making plan involving two persons. Broken hearts heal when we learn to let go of what has been to start with what will be.
The truth is, it takes time to learn to cope with new beginning and how long it takes us to cope with change is up to us. Others can offer support through the gift of their own time but we must walk the journey with our feet. The sooner I realise this, the easier it becomes for me to let go and be at peace with myself.
With the New Year, I hope that you find time to reflect and to think of the 2014 you want. Start living your life story the way you have dreamt! May you go on to write a great book in 2014! May you and yours be blessed with goodness in all areas of your life.
What do you want to write in 2014?
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