– Bill Cosby –
The humour came first, followed by the lessons. That was how I took it when I came across this comics the other day. I got great Gamorrean insights from this funny comics. One actually came when I was getting down to posting this, which was ‘What is a Gamorrean?’ I’ll not be touching on that; you can find out more on Gamorrean here.
Bill Cosby was right when he said that humour can soften the worst blows that life delivers and I believe that the right amount of humour can also bring across some lessons in life more effectively.
One of the great Gamorrean insights from this comics is how readily some of us are, in judging people and giving our opinions freely even when we’re not being asked for them. The woman in the comics volunteered her opinion of her friend’s husband, saying, “Your husband is such a loser.” I believe that most of us, including myself, are guilty in judging people at one point or another. If we don’t judge people in the first place, probably I do not need to touch on the next point, which I believe is the effect of judging people.
Through this comics, I was reminded that words from our mouths could affect others in ways that we might not have even imagined; the tongue, like a sharp knife, kills without drawing blood. Whatever words we say, we should speak with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or bad.
It would be a good practice to ‘T.H.I.N.K’, before we speak, ask ourselves these quick questions:
‘T’ is it True?
‘H’ is it Helpful?
‘I’ does it Inspire others?
‘N’ is it Necessary?
‘K’ is it Kind?
This is improvised from what Buddha proposed on asking ourselves whether we are speaking the truth, whether it is necessary and whether it is kind. Although it may seem rather troublesome at first, practice makes better, eventually this will become a habit in us.
Another great insight from this comics is: we are affected by others’ opinions of us. Don’t you agree that life would be happier if we do not let the opinions of others affect us? What we don’t mind, don’t matter. Just as Owen Wilson Jr. said, “Happiness means loving yourself and being less concerned with the approval of others.”
In order not to be affected by the words of others, we have to know ourselves well. As we become more at peace with ourselves and less ready to judge others, we will also start to take others’ opinions of us more openly. To end this, I would like to share a quote I have read previously, which was attributed to Abraham Lincoln, “I am not bother by what others say about me as long as I know they do not speak the truth of me.” If they do, we change when we can and accept it if we can’t.
Comics used with permission from: lunarbaboon
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