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“Nobody gets to live life backward. Look ahead, that is where your future lies.” – Ann Landers
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There is power and truth in this saying. And yet, why do some of us let our pasts hang on to us and continue to make our lives miserable? Do we not have the trust in ourselves to let go and move on in life? Perhaps, we do not trust or believe that life will get better? Indeed, it is not always guaranteed that life will get better once we let go and move on. And in some cases it may get worse? So why do we even bother to move on?
That is one question which I cannot answer for you? I believe that everything happened for a reason. For what reason you may ask. Sometimes you would know the reason immediately and other times you would not. Whatever reason it may be, there is always an opportunity to learn from what happened and to grow.
Just as a toddler falling, many times, from learning to walk, the toddler didn’t question why he/she was falling; the toddler just kept on trying.
As for me, it didn’t always get better for me in letting go and moving forward also, but it had not gotten any worst too. In fact, whatever I had thought not possible, proved me wrong again and again. There are times I was broken and thought that I could never love another as deeply again?
And eventually when I met the person with the ‘right’ chemistry, sparks flew and my heart beating once again at the speed of light. Yes, I exaggerated. But I believe you get my idea that eventually we will find the ‘right’ person again – provided we are willing to let go and move on with an open heart again.
Letting go and moving on is not always easy. But it can also be as easy as deciding that we want to move on. Lessons in the past we need to learn but forward we must move on … for that is where our future lies.
I wish for you the strength and courage to take on any challenge that you may be facing in your life now.
Do you have any experience in the past where you had found the strength in letting go and moving forward? How were you able to overcome your challenges? And how did it turn out eventually? I believe your shared experience can empower and inspire others too.
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Hi – as far as recent events have occurred I’ve been overwhelmed with challenges with two elderly extremely ill – and not much family support – but we can’t stop just because of that .. people need us, and we need to get to the otherside, so we must move forward, even in little steps.
Fortunately I come with an optimisitc outlook and a positive attitude, and don’t bring negative into my thoughts – that helps enormously. If we can’t do something one way, there’s another way, or it doesn’t matter – move on.
Now’s the time to realise the only person that can help is me .. if it’s going to be, it’s down to me .. that is so true.
Be at peace this Christmas –
Hilary Melton-Butcher
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@ Hilary, I couldn’t have said it better than you. There are times when we could be so overwhelmed that we may want to stop but these are the times when we should be moving forward all the more … even in little steps. It is important to keep a positive outlook and attitude to prevent any negativity from coming into our minds. As you said, “if we can’t do something one way, there’s another way… move on.”
Life is just like riding the motorcycle for me, I don’t care about the destination I simply enjoy the view along the way.
.-= Jude´s last blog ..Entrecard/Birthday/Ducks =-.
This is EXACTLY what I needed to read today.
Thank You.
And, I also believe that everything ALWAYS happens for a reason.
xoxo
.-= meleah rebeccah´s last blog ..When Is Enough? Enough. =-.
Yes, when I was diagnosed with cancer I had to quit thinking about all the what if’s, and all the wonderings if I somehow caused it, if I’d done something different, etc and start to move forward, fixing it and trying to keep it from coming back.
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@ Jude, as what people have always said, “enjoy the journey.” That is the most important.
@ Meleah, I know what you are going through right now and I sincerely hope you will find the strength and courage from within to move forward.
@ Lisa, indeed, a lot of people would have been stuck thinking ‘why’ they were the ones. Some would eventually go pass that stage to fighting it courageously. Yours is a succeed story and I hope it can be a source of inspiration to others who may be going through similar situation like yours. I wish for you continuous great health and happiness.
It’s strange how powerful the past can be. I’ve never really had a problem letting go of things, but more recently, I’ve been regretful of the past. That quote at the beginning is a good reminder. We just don’t get to live in the past.
.-= Ben´s last blog ..Romantic Thoughts and Wedding Vows =-.
I’m having one of those situations now…need to find the strength to move away from a rather toxic friendship. Easier said than done…
@ Ben, I agree with you that the past can be powerful especially when one keeps on clinging to it. And yet there are lessons we must learn from the past so that we do not make the same mistakes again today. Sad to say we do not get to live through our life twice; we can only make the best of it from today.
@ Colby, I agree with you that it is easier said than done. And yet it can be as easy as deciding to let it go. We cannot hope to fill a filled cup with more water if we do not empty the content first. It is as ‘easy’ as pouring away the content first.
Living forward, I must admit is difficult. It takes courage, wisdom and determination to let go of the past and learn its lessons. Only upon choosing the path of acceptance can we go beyond our past and in to the present. 🙂
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Letting go is always not easy. Even like myself is considered as a carefree person experienced this in the past. When we got nowhere to turn to, God is always there for us. Only from Him we can be healed, obtained strength to rise up again and move forward. Thanks for a such encouraging reminder BK 🙂
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@ Walter, I agree with you that living forward is challenging and it takes courage, wisdom and determination to let go of the past and learn its lessons. Most people who are unwilling to let go usually are afraid of moving out of the ‘comfort’ zone. They are so used to their current situations that they want to keep it that way. In a way they have to accept what happened before they can go beyond their past and move into the present. 🙂
@ VanillaSeven, you are right. As I mentioned, there is no guaranteed that life will be better in moving forward. We have to have faith to move into where we cannot see with our eyes. 🙂
Hi BK
Great message here! I totally think that everything does happen for a reason – all the good and all the bad.
And you know what, I also believe one more step to that… that there was never a bad that happened, that didn’t result in some greater good.
We may not know the reasons at this time or ever in this life time, but the Universe knows and has a beautiful way of orchestrating it all.
And as far as the past goes, once I let it go, I was free to blissfully enjoy the present 🙂
.-= Evita´s last blog ..It’s A Wonderful Life and Your Role In It Is Irreplaceable =-.
@ Evita, thank you for your thoughtful comment. “… there was never a bad that happened, that didn’t result in some greater good.” That is an empowering thought which I believe many can be benefited. Indeed, we won’t know the reasons sometimes but the Universe has a way of ‘speaking’ to us. One thing really saddens me is that most find it a challenge to let the past go … I just hope I have this power to help them let go and move on.
Fabulous philosophy, and wow, what great advice!
It really is hard to understand why certain things happen in your life at the time. You do, however, have to feel whatever emotions they make you feel, process that and then move on. That’s always the hard part, though!
Stay ever optimistic, that’s what I say! Things can only get better!
Enjoy the holidays! 😉
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I couldn’t agree with you more about learning from the past but living life forward. One of the biggest questions I get from my readers is about how to get an ex boyfriend back. I always tell them don’t try, because doing so is like trying to live life backward instead of forward. There is lessons to be learned from those old relationships, but that’s all they should be–a chance to recognize mistakes and plan on avoiding those same mistakes in the future.
.-= Tina T´s last blog ..Handling a Break Up =-.
@ The Fitness Diva, I have to agree with you that, that is always the hard part for most people. We certainly have to stay optimistic. Have a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays. 🙂
@ Tina, I have to agree with your advice on ‘don’t try’ to get an ex back. I certainly believe that there is lesson to be learned from old relationships that will ensure that we will have a better relationship in the future.
So true. I love that picture btw, a perfect one for this post :).
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@ Danette, thank you.
Be brave and face it! I am trying my best to face it, I think we are so similar, and I believe we both can go through this.
I am trying my best to face it, I think we are so similar, and I believe we both can go through this.
.-= Emily Yee´s last blog ..Picking Up The Pieces =-.
@ Emily, I am sure you can do it.