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Many years ago, through a training, someone told me, “children don’t do things you told them to do, they do what they saw you doing.” It certainly was one of those ‘aha’ moments.

If you have kids of your own or have spent time with kids, then I’m sure you can recall how they have always tried to imitate you; whether it is the thing you are saying or things you are doing. Most of the time we would find their imitations funny and adorable to us.

What if they imitate our violent acts or our rude cursing and swearing at each other? That wouldn’t be very funny and adorable right?

If we ever hope to build a world where people love and care for each other, where people show loving kindness, compassion and respect toward each other, then we have to do it from young. We have to inculcate in the young to love and care for each other, to show loving kindness, compassion and respect toward each other. But how can we hope to influence them with such positive values if we act otherwise?

In other words, we must start first with ourselves.

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  1. by AmyMusings, on October 14 2009 @ 3:19 am

     

    I saw this video yesterday. It was so upsetting to watch when the parents got violent! And the kid followed along! Or drank or smoked. I felt a little sick when I watched it and thankful that I didn’t grow up with parents that were rotten. I thanked my lucky stars all I got were boring and predictable. Apparently I could have done MUCH worse!
    .-= AmyMusings´s last blog ..The Jesus Guy Stole my Bike =-.

  2. by Symphony of Love, on October 14 2009 @ 3:59 am

     

    @ AmyMusings, I just saw the video this afternoon. It was indeed upsetting to see the kids following what their parents did; being violent, drinking, smoking, feeling of indifference toward others etc.

  3. by MushaMommy, on October 14 2009 @ 5:18 am

     

    I agree.. I have a 6 year old son and growing up, he always repeats the words he hears (from everybody) and his mannerisms reflect how we act. I think to them, if done by adults then it must be correct.

    Happy WW!
    .-= MushaMommy´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday 11 =-.

  4. by Buckeroomama, on October 14 2009 @ 5:31 am

     

    Thanks for sharing this. Having kids is one big responsibility, but then when all is said and done, we should be on good behaviour regardless of whether anyone is watching us. That said, all the more reason to be modeling good behavior to our children.
    .-= Buckeroomama´s last blog ..Something I Don’t Want My Kids to Do =-.

  5. by Gattina, on October 14 2009 @ 5:57 am

     

    This video is so true, unfortunately ! How often do I see parents cross the street by red light or throwing things on the ground.
    .-= Gattina´s last blog .. =-.

  6. by Daddy Forever, on October 14 2009 @ 6:40 am

     

    That’s a funny video. The kids don’t copy the way I act, but they do use the words I use.
    .-= Daddy Forever´s last blog ..Eighteen Days to Halloween =-.

  7. by Symphony of Love, on October 14 2009 @ 6:47 am

     

    @ MushaMommy, you made a very good point; children are looking for approval from adults and what is the best way to get approval? Of course to them it may be as simple as, ‘if they are doing it, so it’ll be alright if I do it too.’

    @ Buckeroomama, you are absolutely right and that is why the transformation must come from us first; within ourselves. :)

    @ Gattina, yes, if adults can be conscious of the things they are doing especially in front of children. In fact, if one conducts the same way with or without children in front of them, then they don’t have to watch their behaviours when they are in front of children.

    @ Daddy Forever, repeating the words that you used can be just as bad especially when the words are not desirable. ;)

  8. by Staci, on October 14 2009 @ 8:02 am

     

    So very true!!!
    .-= Staci´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday =-.

  9. by Pam, on October 14 2009 @ 8:24 am

     

    This video made me sad to watch. It’s so true that we must model the correct behavior all the time because someone is always watching our actions.
    I know I am far from a perfect parent, but I do want my children to be able to copy my actions.
    .-= Pam´s last blog ..Mounds of Fun =-.

  10. by Melanie B, on October 14 2009 @ 8:33 am

     

    I haven’t seen this and yet I’m always amazed at how much people don’t realize. Children learn by mimicking. Sometimes good and sometimes bad.

  11. by Pamela M. Kramer @A Renaissance Woman, on October 14 2009 @ 12:31 pm

     

    Very cool! Glad most of us don’t act like the folks in the video.
    .-= Pamela M. Kramer @A Renaissance Woman´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday – There She Goes =-.

  12. by Brooke, on October 14 2009 @ 4:20 pm

     

    What’s sad is that they even HAD to make a video like that… I always try to do the best I can and while I am not a perfect parent; I do a heck of a better job than so many…
    .-= Brooke´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday – When the nasty sick bug attacks =-.

  13. by Symphony of Love, on October 14 2009 @ 4:34 pm

     

    @ Staci, indeed it is true to a large extent.

    @ Pam, as the saying goes, “we are watching you,” we should indeed conduct ourselves in a proper socially acceptable way at all time, regardless of whether we are in front of children or not. Buckeroomama made a very good comment above. She said, “…we should be on good behaviour regardless of whether anyone is watching us.” No one parent is perfect, we can only strive to be a better parent.

    @ Melanie, we will be alright with the good but the bad is always not desirable.

    @ Pamela, I’m just as glad that most of us don’t behave the way the folks did in the video. :)

    @ Brooke, come to think of it, it is quite sad indeed that they have to make a video like this; it simply means that there are parents who do not realise this yet. Just as it is sad to watch, it also serves as a powerful visual message.

  14. by Lauren @ Hobo Mama, on October 14 2009 @ 4:56 pm

     

    Wow, that is powerful. No matter how good a parent we think we are, it is such a good reminder to be a positive example, even in little ways. Thanks for posting this!
    .-= Lauren @ Hobo Mama´s last blog ..One Lovely Blog Award =-.

  15. by Symphony of Love, on October 14 2009 @ 5:55 pm

     

    @ Lauren, the video is a powerful message indeed. You are right that we need to be positive even in little ways. :)

  16. by Felicia, on October 14 2009 @ 6:15 pm

     

    Heart breaking.. and really makes you stop and think about even the tiny things you do in front of your kids.
    .-= Felicia´s last blog ..Accessorize with Cereal! Limited Time Opportunity at Target! =-.

  17. by VanillaSeven, on October 14 2009 @ 6:15 pm

     

    So true. We have to lead by example from ourselves.
    .-= VanillaSeven´s last blog ..VanillaSeven First Blogoversary =-.

  18. by Gabriel, on October 14 2009 @ 6:17 pm

     

    Powerful video. Disturbing, upsetting, but it sure sends the message across…
    .-= Gabriel ´s last blog ..Santa Claus parades in Ontario – 2009 =-.

  19. by Symphony of Love, on October 14 2009 @ 7:23 pm

     

    @ Felicia, yes, it does make me stop and think about the little things that we are doing in front of kids.

    @ VanillaSeven, yes, leading by example. :)

    @ Gabriel, I couldn’t have said it better than you. The video can indeed be disturbing and upsetting. But it certainly drives home the message.

  20. by pat., on October 14 2009 @ 7:23 pm

     

    When my daughter was two, my parents told me how she sat with them and imitated my aunt’s movements. Kids are copycats. they do what they experience.
    .-= pat.´s last blog ..WW – Sea Heroes =-.

  21. by Jude, on October 14 2009 @ 7:47 pm

     

    Very sad indeed to know our children grow up just like us. Watching that video should give parents and even Grandparents a reason to strive to do better.
    .-= Jude´s last blog ..Senior Proofing Our Homes And Bodies =-.

  22. by Julia @ Easy Eco To Go, on October 14 2009 @ 7:55 pm

     

    That was so powerful it made me tear-up. Thank you for sharing that. What a wonderful addition to Wordless Wednesday.
    .-= Julia @ Easy Eco To Go´s last blog ..No Electricity, No Problem Wordless Wednesday In The dark =-.

  23. by Symphony of Love, on October 14 2009 @ 9:34 pm

     

    @ Pat, probably we learn that since young. Because even when we are adults now, we may still copy other once in a while. I couldn’t imagine how your daughter might have looked; imitating your aunt’s movements. :)

    @ Jude, yes you are right, watching that video will give us many good reasons to do better in parenting. :)

    @ Julia, it is a powerful video indeed. Glad that you like it. :)

  24. by liferamblings, on October 14 2009 @ 10:46 pm

     

    this is profoundly sad and so true. parents can indirectly influence their kids. thanks for sharing this BK. Happy Thursday!
    .-= liferamblings´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday – Wanna go for a swim? =-.

  25. by Symphony of Love, on October 14 2009 @ 11:18 pm

     

    @ Liferamblings, thank you and have a happy Thursday too.

  26. by AuntieE, on October 15 2009 @ 3:10 am

     

    Pretty scary.. I know they that to imitate us.
    .-= AuntieE´s last blog ..Ruby Tuesday-A Ruby Trip. =-.

  27. by Symphony of Love, on October 15 2009 @ 5:25 am

     

    @ AuntieE, probably that was how we started too. :)

  28. by Bonnie, on October 15 2009 @ 5:35 am

     

    This video was a very good reminder to treat others as we would like to be treated. I feel if more adults were positive role models, then the next generation would be better. I see all to often generation and generation of following the same example. Koolaid and chips for breakfast, early pregnancy, frequent STD’s, bad language and much, much more. I do not know how to break the cycle other than repeated education hoping it will sink in.
    .-= Bonnie´s last blog ..Types of Miscarriages =-.

  29. by Jendi, on October 15 2009 @ 6:08 am

     

    So true. I know that it gets the point across quicker by showing the bad things. Children see the good also.

    A good reminder.
    .-= Jendi´s last blog ..Growing Fast =-.

  30. by Melissa @ Oursuburbanhomestead, on October 15 2009 @ 6:16 am

     

    What a sad video. It’s a reminder to all parents of the impact that we have on our children and their future. Thanks for stopping by.
    .-= Melissa @ Oursuburbanhomestead´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday ~ Daddy Daughter Storytime =-.

  31. by Symphony of Love, on October 15 2009 @ 6:28 am

     

    @ Bonnie, you are right, we have to start from the young if we ever hope to have a better world. Although repeated education is important, individual awakening is even more important. Some people no matter what they have been through or heard, they will not change easily. But some people, with a little reminder, they will change for the better. I hope this video will reach more of these people who need a little reminder.

    @ Jendi, yes, the bad things in the video did drive home a powerful message … I hope.

    @ Melissa, a gentle reminder to all parents and to myself too. Thank you for stopping by too.

  32. by Night Owl mama, on October 15 2009 @ 6:06 pm

     

    Makes u think!
    .-= Night Owl mama´s last blog ..WW: Take Me Out To The Ball Game =-.

  33. by Symphony of Love, on October 16 2009 @ 12:30 am

     

    @ Night Owl Mama, indeed, it makes us think. :)

  34. by Sue, on October 16 2009 @ 4:05 am

     

    Very powerful video. Seems so true. You are seeing children being more and more violent in today’s society, they must be getting it from somewhere. Thanks for sharing this.

  35. by Symphony of Love, on October 16 2009 @ 6:00 am

     

    @ Sue, thank you for dropping by.

  36. by Maria @ Conversations with Moms, on October 16 2009 @ 9:42 am

     

    What an amazing video and true 100%

  37. by Symphony of Love, on October 16 2009 @ 4:08 pm

     

    @ Maria, thank you for dropping by.

  38. by Sukhmandir Kaur, on October 16 2009 @ 4:39 pm

     

    It’s so true, we need to be living example of what we’d like to see, not only for children but every one around us. It can be a real challenge, but one worth the effort.

  39. by Symphony of Love, on October 16 2009 @ 5:53 pm

     

    @ Sukhmandir, yes, we must be consistent.

  40. by Marie, on October 19 2009 @ 9:03 am

     

    So very true, and something that I remind myself of often!
    .-= Marie´s last blog ..It’s Monday! What are you Reading? =-.

  41. by Natural, on October 19 2009 @ 11:09 am

     

    powerful video. they are always watching.

  42. by Symphony of Love, on October 19 2009 @ 6:14 pm

     

    @ Marie, I am constantly reminding myself too.

    @ Valerie, thank you for stopping by.

  43. by DorothyyL, on October 22 2009 @ 2:37 am

     

    Fantastic awareness video and post.

    I have always said how confusing our life priorities are when a person has to have a license to fish or hunt but anyone can have a child….

    We are most definitely the ones responsible for the monsters we create within our children.

    Too many parents ignore or play the denial game when their children grow up with totally misdirected ideas and habits. They will look for anyone but themselves to blame:(

  44. by Symphony of Love, on October 22 2009 @ 3:24 am

     

    @ Dorothy, you are right; we are definitely responsible for the monsters we created in our children and usually most will blame anyone else other than themselves.

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