Quantity or Quality?

Father and sonHave you heard of a quotation that goes something like this, “Live your life the way such that when you were born, others were smiling and when you are dead, they are crying?” You might have already heard something similar before. When I die, I do hope to ‘see’ my loved ones smiling.

As most people will say, it is not the quantity but the quality that counts. That is certainly true for most people. The question remains, “Are we living the kind of quality life?” Just as one man’s meat is another poison; what depicts a quality life to one may not be to another. One has to know what one’s definition of a quality life is.

I was talking to a friend in Yahoo messenger recently and she told me that she still missed her father sometimes. I didn’t know at what age her father was when he passed away but one thing I am very sure, he was a great husband and father! Quality life can be that simple – to provide for loved ones and to be always there for them when they need you. Quality life doesn’t have to be a life of luxuries where you are eating the best food, wearing the best silk and drinking the best wine.

Recently, I was at the temple paying respect to my father who passed away for more than two years now. On that day, there were 13 of us altogether at the temple including my mother, brother, sister and my father’s sisters. Time seems to pass quickly and quietly for one who was no longer with us. He has continued to live in our heart. Probably that was what it meant by the quotation above, “Live your life the way such that when you were born, others were smiling and when you are dead, they are crying.

My father was an ordinary man and he had been a cab driver for all his life; up to the point before he left us. However, he was an extraordinary son, brother, husband and father. A man of few words, he shown his loves and concerns through his actions. He was filial to his parents and always found time to visit them every weekend and spent time with his brothers and sisters too. As a responsible husband, he had taken on the duty to drive my mother to and from work almost everyday. As far as I can remember, he rarely quarreled or even raised his voice at my mother. And although he did not earn much, he still passed allowances to my mother without failed.

To us, he had always been a strict father who never failed to punish us when we did wrong. His loves and concerns for us were also shown subtly through his actions. I could say that my brother, sister and I were very fortunate as we never had to go hungry. Our allowances for the school had always been generous too and allowing us to save up quite a bit to buy things that we wanted. There were times when he would be out with his friends and he would always call home to check if we wanted supper. He had been a good role model to me and I had learnt numerous values in life from him.

If you asked me, “Had he led a quality life?” I couldn’t answer for my father as I had never asked him before on what was considered a quality life to him. However, to me, it definitely can be considered a quality life. As I mentioned earlier, the definition of a quality life differs from one individual to another. You have to ask yourself what will be considered a quality life to you. To me, a quality life is to be able to affect people positively and to influence them to lead a better life.

That is one reason why this website was set up in the first place. Initially (and it remains the same), I just wanted to share with people around the World the positive power and wisdom in love quotations. Now, besides doing that, I also want to advocate love and tolerance in the world and to positively affect the lives of people. No matter how long you’ll be alive, what is most important is to live a quality life; one when you look back, you can smile and be proud of. Let Us live a quality life and live it to the fullest!

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19 thoughts on “Quantity or Quality?

  1. Sherxr

    Sorry mate. My condolences..
    How do you know if your father led a quality life? I think he did. Look at how well you remembered him.
    For every good memory that we leave for everyone on this earth, we have increase the worth of our mere existence here.
    Like a mate who inspired me to pursue my dream. He was long gone but always remembered by many. And as the one who told me to pursue my dream because life is short.
    Live life with no regrets.

  2. Symphony of Love Post author

    Sher, you are right! A good point, “for every good memory that we leave for everyone on this earth, we have increased the worth of our mere existence here.” This reminded me of a quotation by Mother Teresa that goes, “Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.”

    And yes! You can’t be more right, “Live life with no regrets!”

  3. Sherxr

    πŸ˜‰ Glad to say something right for a change πŸ˜€
    A dream will always be a dream if you don’t realise it!!! Stole that quotation from Honda commercial. But it’s so true!!!
    I admire Mr Honda!!1

  4. eddie

    A heartfelt post…I was moved by your
    recollections…well said.Another aspect of quality living is to live in the present moment. so many of us live in the past or project our worries onto some unknowable future outcome…or suffering in advance you might say. Thanks for sharing.

  5. Mckhoii

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  6. Symphony of Love Post author

    Eddie, you can’t be more right. Instead of living in the past and worrying about the future. We should be living life in the present. The present is what we have and by living the present to the fullest, we can almost guarantee how the future will turn out.

    Mckhoii, thanks for the view. I’ll try out the advertisement in your website. However, there seems to be a slight problem for me when I was at your site a while ago; I was having some internet error problem. I’ll try to visit again with Firefox.

  7. Haney

    U from Singapore? Anyway, well said.You were lucky to have such a father, hope you and your siblings would follow his joyful footsteps.

    The love has been spread πŸ™‚

  8. Pinay Jade

    Reading your post,I felt your love for your father.And it makes me miss my own father even more. I know how it feels to lose a parent, the most devastating event in one’s life. That made me realize that we should not take any moment for granted. Let us savor every moment that we have with our loved ones before it is too late.
    I also just wrote a tribute post to my father.It was his birthday a couple of weeks ago.

  9. Symphony of Love Post author

    The people that we love … are never far, they are always in our heart. You are definitely right; we must savor every moment that we have with our loved ones before it is too late. I remembered a quotation by David Grayson, “Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so.” And it definitely does not have to be that way.

  10. laura

    i am deeply touched by your memories about your father,for i too share the same recollections.i have great admiration and high respect for my papa for the way he instilled discipline and moral values by just simply living it.now that i am a parent myself i am proud to say that the difficulties and hardships we have encountered while young,the perseverance , persistence and silent struggle fought by my father brought me and my siblings to where we are now.I thank GOD for the “GIFT”.

  11. Symphony of Love Post author

    Hi Laura, thank you for sharing about your papa. Your papa has shown the best way to instill discipline and moral values – by living it! And I deeply respect that too.

  12. Michael

    To leave yourself behind through children or fame is the ultimate right of mankind, and a basic one at the same time. I don’t have that right however, at least thus far. Life isn’t fair at all.

    Michaels last blog post..Not Much Motivation

  13. Symphony of Love Post author

    @ Michael, is life fair? I don’t know. I remember reading something from a book before where it states that life sometimes dealt us with bad cards, it is how we play the cards to make the best out of it that matters.